The Little Things In Life

In life, sometimes, it's the simplest things that bring you joy.  Sometimes, it's better to just stop looking for big things and enjoy these little things that make you smile when you think about them.  I've become one of the people who takes my camera around wherever I go so that I have the pictures and little keepsakes to remind me of the good things. Having happy moments is not so complicated after all, and sometimes, when times get bad, it's the little happy moments that you think about.

It's not a great love that usually makes you happy, because when you love someone greatly, you also give them the power to hurt you greatly, but there is always a risk when you decide to care about people.  Yet, even though I know that my friends and I have to  part ways sometime, I don't stop myself from caring.  I get pleasure in simple things.  Having friends over for dinner or drinks makes me happy.  I like playing the little housewife sometimes, and I like the times when I can cook for someone else's pleasure.

Hearing from a long lost friend is a joy to me.  They disappear from you life sometimes, then by some twist of fate, you find them again and you remember that they were part of what was good in your life.  Receently, I found two of my good friends who were in Primary School with me and it was a good feeling.  Jaclyn and I have been friends since we were 7 and it's great to see how far both of us have gone in life.  I know that recently she was in the UK and maybe, if things go well, she'll visit me someday.  A message from my ex-classmate Nisha made me smile for days on end and I though I haven't seen her for almost 10 years, I remember the essence of her and how I loved to hug her when we were in school.  I remember going to her sister's wedding and enjoying it so much. 

Old friends, new friends, friends to come, it's what makes life worth living.  Michelle and Corey are two new friends who are completely crazy and being with them always makes me slightly crazy too, but I enjoy it.  Jenna has become someone I talk to all the time and she is someone I can share the weirdest things with.  Last week, Sarah went through (another) breakup and although it was by no means a good day, I got some joy in having her over at my place and being able to have a nice girly chat with her, and I do believe that soon, she'll get into another relationship.  Hopefully, this time it won't be with another person who's 8 years younger.

Some people just surprise you sometimes.  One of my friends have been MIA for some time because he'd just gotten into a new relationship, but lately, I've been spending some time with his girlfriend, and I do really like her.  I like them together, especially since I was a sounding wall for him when he was planning on getting together with her.  Then, last week, out of nowhere, he called me and we were talking, and he asked me, "do you feel chucked?"  That let me know that he would be my friend for a long long time to come.  Plus, we still take some time to talk about what's going on in each other's lives so it's all good.

My cousins sometimes drive me crazy but they also bring me great joy.  We've never become distant even though we are far apart, and it proves that physical distance doesn't mean an emotional distance.  I love them today as much as I loved them before, and I think, in a way, I'm lucky because not only are my cousins related to me by blood, but growing up in our family, for generations, it's been normal for cousins to be good friends and it stays that way.  Technology helps too.  I've seen my mom getting online with my aunt in UK for a video conference that goes on for hours, and I see how happy it makes them both to be able to talk to each other.  Someday hopefully, I will be able to take my mom to visit her cousin in UK because I know that they grew up together and that they do miss each other.

During busy and tiring times, all I can do is stop looking for big things and enjoy the little things.  Even bitching sessions are good sometimes since it lets the anger out.  Sometimes when you're so low you think the ground is over your head, something as simple as walking along the beach with the wind hitting you hard is something to look forward to, and I do.  Meeting my group of friends at the Quad cafe before class and just listening to the talk going around is something I look forward to.  I look forward to these times and the little things that lighten up a dreary day.